3 Things You Should Consider Before Moving After College
As a person who was adamant about moving after college I never could have imagined writing an article such as this. Since not being able to move as planned and seeing quit a few of my peers that have relocated and moved back home it has changed my perspective. Making the decision to move after college should be a decision that goes beyond a change of scenery. If you're anything like me, the last thing you want to happen is to move and be forced to move back because of problems you overlooked prior to moving. Being in my home state an extra 2 years after graduation hasn't been all fun, but I've learned a few things that I believe have prepared me for making that transition.
Ask Yourself Why You Want To Move
I wanted to be in an environment that would allow me to get my foot in the door at a PR firm or creative company, flourish as a entrepreneur, as well as attend school for my Master's degree. Underneath that was the unwritten rule that if you remained in Arkansas after college you weren't doing anything with your life. I have since learned that I'm not the only one who has felt the pressure to make such a big change to prove their worth. When considering moving make sure you aren't doing so to prove to others that you can make it elsewhere or for the short lived satisfaction of posting pics of your new location on the gram. Ultimately, it's not always about where you are, but what you do. Do what best suites you no matter if that means moving asap, waiting a little while or never moving.
Find The Beauty In Where You Are
One of the most valuable lessons I learned is that there is always something to do even in the seemingly most boring places; you just have to know where to look. My go to place to look for moves is Facebook. Every week I go to the events section and look up things to do in my area. These events have helped me find my tribe by networking with fellow creatives. Besides making great friends and keeping a busy schedule, a plus about staying home a little longer is being able to spend time with my family. The older we get so does our parents and grandparents so spending time with them is essential. Lastly, I've realized instead of focusing on the resources I don't have I should expound on what I do have. I have an online business so there is no reason why I should use what state I live in as an excuse. Sure, I'm not near any large blogger conferences, but I can still grow my social media presence and readership and explore other creative ventures. The bright side about moving forward with my dreams despite my location is that I won't be under the pressure of building a new brand in the midst of getting used to a new city, it's easier for me to stay in my own lane since I'm not in a competitive environment like L.A. and I'm saving money by investing in myself now while I live in a low cost state.
Realize Moving Won't Solve All Your Problems
When you dislike where you are it's easy for you to glamorize other places. When issues start to arise you can begin to view them as bigger than what they really are and end up wanting to relocate again. Moving will open new and exciting doors, but there will still be things that suck. You'll have to get used to your new surroundings, you will have to make friends as an adult and things might not unfold exactly how you expected it to. It's okay to get excited about your new adventure, but also stay grounded. A few things that I've learned are:
- Your location is only half the battle. It's important that you get linked up with a great source of friends or family. Many people have moved back home due to loneliness or the frustration of becoming a part of a toxic clique.
- If you were lazy in your hometown there's a huge chance you will be lazy in the next even if there are more opportunities.
- It's not wise the move solely based on the dating scene. No matter where you go there will always be people who thinks dating is great there and dating sucks there.
- Don't just feed into the hype; visit the place(s) that you are interested in moving to. Even if you have visited the place before, it's a good idea to visit again if it's been awhile. Your feelings about the location and the location itself could have changed since the last time you were there.
- Do your research. You need to know what the cost of living is there before you move. How much does a decent apartment cost there? How soon do you have to transfer your driver's license? This is all the boring stuff that nobody posts about on social media, but HAS to be done for a successful move.
I still plan to move, but in a way I'm happy that I didn't do it as quickly as I had hoped. Getting my first apartment here has allowed me a chance to get my feet wet and ease into adulting instead of jumping into moving somewhere I have no friends or family. I feel a lot more prepared than the recent grad that was itching to break out of this state. One last thing for you to know is to not stress yourself out about where you'll end up. Staying in your home state does not mean you'll be there forever and moving doesn't mean you can't move back or somewhere else afterwards. We are young and it's okay to explore. You are not obligated to have all the answers.